What happened to Oliver Mills and Brittany Brosky?

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Tsso8y0JWelcome to the latest internet drama. It’s messy. And, for those who don’t know the key players, there are a lot of moving parts.

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So, in the words of Taylor Swift’s Cleveland, let’s get into it!

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The story starts with two influencers.

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One is a man named Oliver Mills. His TikTok bio describes himself as “New Zealand’s Finnick Odair” (you know, one of the most charismatic and beloved characters from The Hunger Games). You also may recognise him as one of the lucky ones who got the “22 hat” on Taylor Swift’s Eras tour.

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The second key player is Brittany Broski. She is an American influencer who first went viral in 2019 as “Kombucha girl.” She now hosts a podcast called Broski Report and interviews celebrities on her Royal Court YouTube series.

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So, what’s made this the most viral story of the week?

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What happened between Oliver Mills and Brittany Broski?

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In June 2020, Oliver Mills and Brittany Broski collaborated on a promotional video for Audible — the audiobook platform. From there, the influencers reportedly visited Disneyland together, and fans started to suspect they might be dating.

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Soon after, however, Broski posted a since-deleted video about getting her heart broken. Viewers were quick to speculate the influencer was talking about Mills.

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Then things went dark for a while.

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That is until July this year when Broski was invited on stage by Spanish performer Rosalía for a “confessional” segment. This is where a special guest shares a personal story or secret.

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Here, Broski spoke about a past relationship. And not fondly.

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“I begged him to come stay with me in LA. He did. Except, everything was on Mama’s card. I paid for everything,” Broski said.

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From there, some more players entered the story.

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Oliver Mills and Avantika Vandanapu spark dating rumours.

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Five days ago, American actress Avantika Vandanapu — who starred in Not Suitable for Work — posted a TikTok video with Oliver Mills. They were eating sushi and listening to Elton John.

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It came after Mills shared his own video of the pair singing Dolly Parton.

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After Vandanapu posted her TikTok with Mills, Brittany Broski re-entered the chat. Literally. The influencer commented just one word on the actress’ video: “RUN!!!!!!!!!!”

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That’s when another woman entered the discourse.

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It was Los-Angeles-based influencer Sierra Brave, known online as Si Si.

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Also on TikTok, Si Si spoke about a man she dated for a year who allegedly cheated on her.

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“I’ve been seeing a lot of women come forward talking about their stories and their trauma with my ex-boyfriend. And I think that maybe it’s finally time that I share what I went through as well,” she said.

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The influencer never mentioned Mills in the video itself, but liked a comment asking if she was referring to the New Zealand creator. If that wasn’t confirmation enough, Mills also mentioned Si Si by name in his apology video (we’re getting to it).

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Si Si went on to claim that “he puts on a really good mask of loving women and uplifting women, when in reality he’s unsafe and very harmful.”

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“He just isn’t a good person, and he has a lot of work to do and a lot of healing to do. And I really hope he does it, because I’m sure that there’s a good soul underneath all of that.”

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Then, one more woman joined the scene.

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An influencer named Maya Manoit commented on Si Si’s video, alluding that she also dated Mills.

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“I was done protecting him too. Woman come first always. Thank u for sharing.”

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Here’s when Oliver Mills re-entered the conversation.

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Oliver Mills’ apology video.

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Two days ago, Oliver Mills posted a six-minute-long apology video to TikTok where he addressed claims made about him by women he once dated.

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He began the video: “A few of the people I’ve dated have made videos about their experiences dating me and the fact that I am a liar and a cheat and an unsafe partner. They were correct to do so, because I am and I have been.”

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Mills went on to say he has “caused significant damage to these people.”

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“I was selfish and narcissistic, and acted horribly. I’ve been horrible…. and I am not deserving of sympathy for that.”

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The TikTok creator said he needed “radical change” and, until now, had been “going through life dating with callousness and disrespect.”

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He added that it was “shameful” that it took women speaking out publicly for him to address his behaviour.

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“I have been lying to myself about my role in this, and the significance of the hurt that I have caused. It’s disgusting. And it’s beyond wrong, and I don’t want it to exist,” he said.

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The 27-year-old explained that he had tried to justify his actions but had “lied to [himself]” in the process.

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“Whether or not that’s because of the harm that I’ve faced in my life, and my own experience with sex and sexuality, it’s been very non-linear. And not to say that is an excuse, obviously.”

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Mills added that he is determined to “figure out” why he acted the way he did, and how he can change going forward.

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He then directly addressed Brittany, Sierra and Maya by name, saying “I’m terribly sorry. I have hurt you all in unique ways. I am the common denominator there.”

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“I’m disgusted, and I adamantly refuse for this character to continue,” he continued.

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“I know my word means nothing, and a lot of the action I need to take to change this character… I don’t know what it looks like… I am very sorry.”

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The response to the video was swift.

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While a few defended Mills for “owning up,” the overwhelming majority were not on his side.

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Si Si, one of the women mentioned in his video, even commented warning viewers “against believing this soliloquy.”

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“I must say this is the same speech I got our entire relationship. Also, just to note, he has never privately apologised to me and is only doing this because it’s now come to the internet.”

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Mills did acknowledge he was “ashamed” it took being publicly called out for him to make the video.

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Owning up only once you get caught isn’t a great look, for sure.

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But Mills’ video represents something bigger.

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Watch Mamamia’s In The Comments podcast explain the Oliver Mills saga below. Post continues after video.

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Men, breakups and the ‘villain’ theory.

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There is a type of guy who picks one of two villains after a breakup.

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There’s the one who insists his ex-girlfriend was “crazy” while conveniently leaving out his own flaws.

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And there’s the one who insists he, himself, is the villain. The one who says he’s selfish, narcissistic, the “worst boyfriend ever.”

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On the surface, it looks like accountability. It can even make you empathise with him.

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But uddenly, the story isn’t about the woman he hurt. It’s about his feelings, how terrible he feels, how ashamed he is of himself.

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It comes across as performative shame.

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This isn’t to generalise men. Of course, women can (and do) act the same way after a breakup. Studies, however, prove girls have been socialised from a young age to prioritise the needs of others — moreso than boys.

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It’s why this kind of content has been labelled the laziest type of apology.

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Feature Image: 📸: Instagram/olivermillsn/brittanybroski

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