Several years after their engagement ended in early 2022, aaron rodgers Expressing your grievances with your ex Shailene Woodley.
But Cam Hayward’s “not just football”Podcast, 42-year-old pittsburgh steelers The quarterback alleged that days after their engagement the actress expressed interest in being intimate with another unnamed man before their wedding.
“(Woodley) probably felt like she was forced to make a decision; she couldn’t say no,” said Rodgers, who is now Married to a woman named BrittanyThe 2020 proposal was considered. “Her story is that I ruined her life and gave her crazy depression because I left her, but the reality is that she told me this (statement) and she’s out of the ring until March.”
USA TODAY has contacted Woodley for comment.
Aaron Rodgers and Shailene Woodley
While it is impossible to analyze someone and his personal relationship Based on a public comment, experts say the situation shows how Feelings about the breakup may persistEspecially if they have not been processed properly.
Breakup Grief Has No Clear End Date, Explained amy chandating coach and author “Unsingle: How to Date Smarter and Create Love That Lasts.”
“If you don’t take the time and work to overcome that grief (and) look at your own patterns and how you have contributed to the relationship problems., Then you can distract yourself or avoid your pain. But that pain does not go away just because of time. It stays with you, it becomes a burden,” Chan told USA TODAY. “You bring that burden into your next relationship, or that burden gets expressed in reactive ways.”
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Even years later, people may still be trying to ‘make sense’ of a breakup
Matt Grammer, a licensed professional clinical counselor-supervisor and founder of Therapy Training, says he’s seen people, even years after a breakup, talk about the details of their relationship “as if they’re still trying to figure it out.”
“A relationship may end, but that doesn’t mean one or both people have processed their feelings about it,” Grammer said.
Doriel Jakov, a psychotherapist and founder dj psychotherapyAgree that the passage of time also does not mean that the breakup has been emotionally processed.
“A person may think very little about their ex-partner for years until those feelings are reactivated by a reminder, a specific question, an ex discussing the relationship, a new relationship, or re-hearing the story of what happened,” Jakov said. “What comes up may be a sign that there are aspects of what happened in the relationship that have yet to be fully processed.”
Especially with the Rodgers situation, Chan says it feels like he’s creating a story where she’s the victim and he’s the villain.
“Although I don’t know what happened between them, we’ll never know, but the way he’s attacking her and her reaction is very telling,” says Chan. “She has every right to express her side of what happened. But there’s a difference between sharing your side and requiring the audience to declare you the winner of the breakup.”
And by the time all the stories are shared on social media, does it even matter “who won?”
Contributed by: Kimi Robinson
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